And you say adoption, but that might be even harder than abortion... I am not a woman, but at least abortion is a definite process, no consequences, whereas giving your child up for adoption entails 1) having to see it born - your firstborn (mostly) - and having to kill that special moment because you give it away
and 2) the fact that one day in the future this kid may want to meet its parents, and then all the nasty feelings come back.
Sorry to get nasty, but what you said offends me far more than the entire abortion argument. First things first:
When a woman who knows that she does not want to keep the baby decides to give it away for adoption, this decision has obviously been reached before the actual moment of birth. What emotional scarring there is [unless of a case of rape] her own damn fault for getting knocked up in the first place. Instead, she should be happy. The baby is being transferred to, presumably, an unwed mother who might not be able to afford the best care for her baby to a loving couple who will give that baby all the chance in the world to suceed. Adoption is an act of love
for the child; it's a mother who knows what's best. There's no "moment killing" or "nasty feelings". That's a load of bull, and you obviously have no experience to back those assumptions up.
Also, in most modern adoptions of this nature, since the mother knows that she wants to give away the baby ahead of time, parents will also be selected ahead of time. It is a thoroughly planned-out process. It's arguable that adoptee parents are much
more suitable for parenthood than biological parents. Adoptive parents are required to go to child care classes, get thorough background checks, and have to meet with the mother and with social workers. Biological parents, on the other hand..."our condom broke, so...lawl!"
Myself, I am adopted. My adoptee parents had got to take me strait out of the hosptial, when I was 3 days old - it's not like some sort of silly orphan girl annie story. They are the parents I grew up with every step of the way, just like regular parents and biological children. Like many happily adopted children, I have no desire to ever meet my biological family - THIS is my real
family - the people who raised me. I appreciate my biological mother for the gift of life, but I would never call her my mother. To me, that woman more like an egg donor or a surrogate mother. (Fyi, I've never met her, and can't even recall her name.) No teenage angst or emotional scarring; honestly, honestly, I have no idea where that silly stereotype came from. I've met many, many adopted children in my life, and they're absolutely no differnet than biological children; many of us even have siblings that ARE biological (myself included) and our parents treat us no differently from them. Aside from the occasional freak-case, born-adopted children (meaning, adopted at birth) are treated as regular children and are perfectly happy with their new families. And if I ever did by chance meet the biological parents...well, so what? I have no nasty feelings towards her. She knew what was best and made the choice that benefitted me most. What more could a child ask for?
So, "bringing back nasty feelings?" Please don't try to base logical debate off of movie cliches
next time, THANKS.
So, are you still saying that killing the fetus is more humane? I'll put this is lightly as I can: what the hell is wrong with you?